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Learn How to Receive & You'll Create Higher Self-Esteem – Week 8

13 July 2015

Many people are constantly seeking ways to be happier, wealthier and wiser.

Though what is really interesting is that many people (especially women) don’t even know how to receive a compliment, so why would the universe turn around and fulfill their desires if they don’t take the time to value and appreciate the small things in their space.


The Value of Learning How to Receive


Yes, women give, give and give to the point of exhaustion and then they have a hard time receiving. Some of us can’t even receive a compliment without downplaying it, “What, this old thing?” “Yes, I lost a bit of weight, though I still have more to lose.”


Now ladies, let’s look at this in detail. First, do you realise how rude that is? The person has taken the time to compliment you and really all we have to do is say ‘thank you’ (even if we don’t agree). That is right, look them in the eyes and say ‘thank you’.


It is so rewarding to just say Thank You. We know deep down that the compliment we received is warranted; otherwise they would not have said it. Just own it, no need for us to play small. Just say thank you.


And then everyone is happy, the complimentor (one giving) is happy, as their time was not wasted and the complimentee (one receiving) is happy as something has been recognised by others. Not that we are seeking recognition, remember our recognition comes from within; we have self-esteem, though it is always nice to have external acknowledgement now and then.


I am a great believer in giving compliments even if I do not know the person. Just the other day I was in a coffee shop talking with a friend when a lady walked in wearing a dress that just made her shine. She looked amazing. I excused myself from the conversation and as the lady walked past me, I said, “Excuse me that dress looks amazing on you, really makes you shine.”


The lady was a bit taken back at first, and then she said “Thank you so much, you have made my day. Up until now, it has not been going very well, and now it can only get better.”


See what happens when the giving and receiving is done with love and respect. My intention was pure and it was received that way.


Our reluctance to freely receive affects all our relationships – with ourselves, with other people and with other things we would like to receive in our lives.


Next time you receive a compliment, take the time to look directly at the person and say THANK-YOU. You’ll be amazed at how great it makes you both feel. And remember feeling good is good for you – it’s been linked to all sorts of benefits, from higher earnings and better immune system to boosts in your creativity.

Until next week…………..

With Gratitude and Joy

Karen Chaston

For earlier posts in Karen’s Creating High Self Esteem Series please visit:

Creating High Self Esteem – Week 1

Building High Self Esteem – Week 2

Continuing on our Journey to High Self Esteem – Week 3

Fueling Yourself Towards High Self Esteem – Week 4

Say NO Build Higher Self Esteem – Week 5

Say Yes and Create Higher Self Esteem – Week 6

Receiving a “No” Eloquently Builds Higher Self Esteem – Week 7

About the Author

Karen Chaston: “Inspiring Women to Empower All Areas of Life is a wife, mother, author, speaker, radio host, former CFO publicly listed company, BraveHeart Women Resonator.

Surprisingly, it took her son’s death for her to become more aware, grateful, healthier, energised and live in my Essence

Karen now inspires women to become their own best friend and live in their Essence.

Creating more “conscious entrepreneurs”; who allow heart and soul, as well knowledge and expertise, to guide their businesses. Karen will guide your female colleagues away from burnout, exhaustion and competition towards inspired, motivated and collaborative employees who’ll have a CEO focused mind-set. A win-win for all!!