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Learn How to Receive & You'll Create Higher Self-Esteem – Week 8
13 July 2015
people are constantly seeking ways to be happier, wealthier and wiser.
what is really interesting is that many people (especially women) don’t even
know how to receive a compliment, so why would the universe turn around and
fulfill their desires if they don’t take the time to value and appreciate the
small things in their space.
The Value of Learning How to
Yes, women give, give and give to the point of
exhaustion and then they have a hard time receiving. Some of us can’t even
receive a compliment without downplaying it, “What, this old thing?” “Yes, I
lost a bit of weight, though I still have more to lose.”
ladies, let’s look at this in detail. First, do you realise how rude that is?
The person has taken the time to compliment you and really all we have to do is
say ‘thank you’ (even if we don’t
agree). That is right, look them in the eyes and say ‘thank you’.
It is so
rewarding to just say Thank You. We know deep down that the compliment we
received is warranted; otherwise they would not have said it. Just own it, no
need for us to play small. Just say thank you.
everyone is happy, the complimentor (one giving) is happy, as their time was
not wasted and the complimentee (one receiving) is happy as something has been
recognised by others. Not that we are seeking recognition, remember our
recognition comes from within; we have self-esteem, though it is always nice to
have external acknowledgement now and then.
I am a great believer in giving compliments even if I
do not know the person. Just the other day I was in a coffee shop talking with
a friend when a lady walked in wearing a dress that just made her shine. She
looked amazing. I excused myself from the conversation and as the lady walked
past me, I said, “Excuse me that dress looks amazing on you, really makes you
The lady was a bit taken back at first, and then she
said “Thank you so much, you have made my day. Up until now, it has not been
going very well, and now it can only get better.”
See what happens when the giving and receiving is done
with love and respect. My intention was pure and it was received that way.
reluctance to freely receive affects all our relationships – with ourselves, with
other people and with other things we would like to receive in our lives.
you receive a compliment, take the time to look directly at the person and say
THANK-YOU. You’ll be amazed at how great it makes you both feel. And remember feeling
good is good for you – it’s been linked to all sorts of benefits, from higher earnings
and better immune system to boosts in your creativity.
With Gratitude and Joy
For earlier posts in Karen’s
Creating High Self Esteem Series please visit:
Self Esteem – Week 1
Self Esteem – Week 2
Continuing on our
Journey to High Self Esteem – Week 3
Towards High Self Esteem – Week 4
Say NO Build
Higher Self Esteem – Week 5
Say Yes and
Create Higher Self Esteem – Week 6
Receiving a “No” Eloquently Builds Higher Self Esteem
– Week 7
About the Author
Karen Chaston: “Inspiring Women to Empower All Areas of Life” is a
wife, mother, author, speaker, radio host, former CFO publicly listed company,
BraveHeart Women Resonator.
it took her son’s death for her to become more aware, grateful,
healthier, energised and live in my Essence.
now inspires women to become their own best friend and live in their Essence.
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