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Creating High Self Esteem - Week 1
09 July 2015
Self-confidence and self-esteem are two very
different things, and the aim of this blog series is to bring awareness whilst
providing some helpful tips so you can create high positive self-esteem.
Basically, self-esteem is how we value
ourselves. It is an essential requirement that is vital for us to thrive – to have normal healthy
development. It is how we perceive our value to the world and to others.
Self-esteem affects our trust in others, our
relationships, our work – nearly every part of our lives. It
arises automatically from within based upon a person’s beliefs and
Women with high self-esteem may or may not have self-confidence.
Similarly, women with self-confidence may or may not have high self-esteem. Self-confidence
is an outer focus of confidence. We gain confidence by being able to do
something really well. A self-confident woman has to have all the skills and tools,
all the nuances down pat, before she will go out into the world and display her
skill. She gets her recognition from everyone else letting her know how great
she performs a particular skill or task.
self-esteem is a debilitating condition that keeps
individuals from realising their full potential because the person feels
unworthy, incapable and incompetent. This quote (unknown author) sums it up
eloquently: “If you put a small value on
yourself, rest assured the world will not raise your price.”
Here are some signs of low self-esteem:
view of life
others – even those who show signs of affection
of taking risks
of being unloved and unlovable
– letting others make decisions
of being ridiculed
When we truly love the person we are, we get our
knowing and acceptance from within.
Awareness and Rituals
You are the only person you’ll spend your entire
life with, so let’s begin the journey to becoming your own best friend, by
boosting your self- esteem.
Awareness precedes action, so over the next few
weeks I’ll share ideas and some of my daily routines. Start to consciously
implement these routines and then eventually you’ll create your own daily routine.
By creating a daily routine, you’ll be amazed how
quickly your life begins to change, and you’ll be on the road to achieving
everything you desire.
The way you speak to yourself.
Continual negative self-talk can make you depressed
and ensure that your self-esteem remains low.
Just by catching yourself as you are about to say
something negative to yourself and rephrasing it can make all the difference.
Instead of saying “I made an idiotic mistake and I am hopeless at this job,”
rephrase it to “I made an error; it’s not
the end of the world. I know errors occur, and I can learn and grow from them.”
Our subconscious does not understand negative words,
so when we say something like “I do not want a boyfriend who treats me badly,”
it actually hears “I want a boyfriend who treats me badly.” Hence, you
continually get the same type of boyfriends who treat you badly. That is right,
“different versions of the same loser.”
Rephrase it by positively asking for what you want:
“I want a boyfriend who treats me
fantastically, one who loves me and will go above and beyond for me.”
Also try and rephrase negative words as then your
subconscious will create the positive. Instead of saying” this is difficult” say “this
is not easy” and before long it will be easy.
Don’t miss next week, where I’ll share some more