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Creating High Self Esteem - Week 1

09 July 2015

Self-confidence and self-esteem are two very different things, and the aim of this blog series is to bring awareness whilst providing some helpful tips so you can create high positive self-esteem.

Basically, self-esteem is how we value ourselves. It is an essential requirement that is vital for us to thrive – to have normal healthy development. It is how we perceive our value to the world and to others.

Self-esteem affects our trust in others, our relationships, our work nearly every part of our lives. It arises automatically from within based upon a person’s beliefs and consciousness.

Women with high self-esteem may or may not have self-confidence. Similarly, women with self-confidence may or may not have high self-esteem. Self-confidence is an outer focus of confidence. We gain confidence by being able to do something really well. A self-confident woman has to have all the skills and tools, all the nuances down pat, before she will go out into the world and display her skill. She gets her recognition from everyone else letting her know how great she performs a particular skill or task.


Low self-esteem is a debilitating condition that keeps individuals from realising their full potential because the person feels unworthy, incapable and incompetent. This quote (unknown author) sums it up eloquently: “If you put a small value on yourself, rest assured the world will not raise your price.”

Here are some signs of low self-esteem:

§  Negative view of life

§  Perfectionist attitude

§  Mistrusting others – even those who show signs of affection

§  Blaming behaviour

§  Fear of taking risks

§  Feelings of being unloved and unlovable

§  Dependence – letting others make decisions

§  Fear of being ridiculed

When we truly love the person we are, we get our knowing and acceptance from within.

Creating Awareness and Rituals

You are the only person you’ll spend your entire life with, so let’s begin the journey to becoming your own best friend, by boosting your self- esteem.

Awareness precedes action, so over the next few weeks I’ll share ideas and some of my daily routines. Start to consciously implement these routines and then eventually you’ll create your own daily routine.

By creating a daily routine, you’ll be amazed how quickly your life begins to change, and you’ll be on the road to achieving everything you desire.

#1 The way you speak to yourself.

Continual negative self-talk can make you depressed and ensure that your self-esteem remains low.

Just by catching yourself as you are about to say something negative to yourself and rephrasing it can make all the difference. Instead of saying “I made an idiotic mistake and I am hopeless at this job,” rephrase it to “I made an error; it’s not the end of the world. I know errors occur, and I can learn and grow from them.”

Our subconscious does not understand negative words, so when we say something like “I do not want a boyfriend who treats me badly,” it actually hears “I want a boyfriend who treats me badly.” Hence, you continually get the same type of boyfriends who treat you badly. That is right, “different versions of the same loser.”

Rephrase it by positively asking for what you want: “I want a boyfriend who treats me fantastically, one who loves me and will go above and beyond for me.”

Also try and rephrase negative words as then your subconscious will create the positive. Instead of saying” this is difficult” say “this is not easy” and before long it will be easy.

Don’t miss next week, where I’ll share some more daily tips.

Karen Chaston