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Building High Self- Esteem - Week 2
09 July 2015
Psychologist Abraham Maslow's “hierarchy of needs” depicts
self-esteem as one of the basic human motivations. Maslow suggests that people
need both esteem from other people as well as inner self-respect. Both of these
needs must be fulfilled in order for an individual to grow as a person and
Positive (high) self-esteem gives us the strength
and flexibility to take charge of our lives and grow from our mistakes without
the fear of rejection.
Women with high self-esteem will show up in their
complete wholeness. It’s doesn’t necessarily mean they have it all together.
They’re not perfect. They allow themselves to know they’re a whole human being
with all their imperfections, knowing they still have much to learn, let go of
and evolve into.
They are women who allow themselves to shine their
light and show up in their full magnificence. Even though they don’t know what
it looks like, they know how it feels. Their ethos is: “I am not sure what I will be doing, though I want to show up.”
to our Awareness and Creating Daily Rituals
When you like yourself more, when your opinion of
yourself goes up then you’ll stop trying so eagerly to get validation and
attention from other people.
With this new awareness:
you’ll become less needy,
your inner life is much less of an
you’ll find the courage to live your
life according to your ‘burning inner
desires” – Yeah!!!
You’ll also start to live your life with
an ethos of “It is none of my business
what other people think of me.” - Totally
liberating and fulfilling.
Most people concentrate on the negative things in
their lives or all the things they wish they had, as opposed to realising and
appreciating how many blessings they actually have in their lives.
To fully understand this “topsy turvey” way of thinking, let’s look at the 7th of
the 12 universal laws*, the Law of Attraction.
The Law of Attraction demonstrates:
create the things, events and people that come into our lives our thoughts,
feelings, words, and actions produce energies which, in turn attract like
energies. Negative energies attract negative energies and positive energies
attract positive energies.
With this in mind, our ritual for this week is creating a daily gratitude journal.
For this exercise, it’s really important that you spend
the time to purchase a beautiful hard-covered journal. This is something
special for you; spend more than you normally would. Even purchase a special
pen, test a few to make sure you find the one that creates a special feeling
when you write with it.
The daily ritual:
Each day write down five things that you
are grateful for in your life. Make sure that you try to have at least three
different things each day, so you have to think and feel about it.
Try to evoke all your senses in your
words: hear, see, smell and touch things, taste
things, feel things. For example, you may choose to write something
like: “I am so grateful that I live by
the beach as I get to walk there every morning. I love to listen to the sound
of the surf, feel the light breeze as I look at the sun, the clouds and the
sky. I feel so alive just by experiencing the beach each day.”
Last time we spoke about checking in and catching the
way you speak with yourself. This week we have
added the daily ritual of writing in a gratitude journal. Take the time today
to purchase the hard cover journal and pen, and then tomorrow start the ritual.
Please share all the “blessings and abundance” that
have flown into your life since implementing the first two“self esteem” daily
I look forward to sharing & building our daily
rituals over the coming weeks as Self - esteem is the first step to Becoming your
own best friend.
Until next time…….
*To learn more about the12 universal laws please
check out my favourite publication: Milanovich
and McCunes book The Light Shall Set You Free (1998)
Karen Chaston: “Inspiring Women to Empower All Areas of Life” is a wife, mother, author, speaker,
radio host, former CFO publicly listed company, BraveHeart Women Resonator.
Surprisingly, it took her son’s death for her to become
more aware, grateful, healthier, energised and live in my Essence.
inspires women to become their own best friend and live in their Essence.
more “conscious entrepreneurs”; who
allow heart and soul, as well as knowledge and expertise, to guide their