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Getting personal about Stress
16 March 2011
I am going to get straight to the point: when stress hits so hard what does one do when nothing works? I recently had lunch with a long-time friend and when she walked into the restaurant I hardly recognized her yet it was only six months since our last meeting. She was recovering from a nervous breakdown and had lost a lot of weight. Then a few days later I met another friend looking wafer thin and she had just moved out of the marital home. And this morning I have just put the phone down from yet another friend who has moved out of the ‘relationship’ home. I have two friends recovering in hospital, one from kidney stones and the other from a heart attack. All these ladies, ranging in ages from 42 to 53, are very successful and talented and used to handling difficult situations, but they are currently struggling and one could slice their stress levels into big chunks and fill a tip-truck.
We all know the importance of exercise, healthy eating, work-life balance, positive attitudes, living in the ‘now’, friendships etc and if you search ‘stress’ in The Ruby Connection you will read many valuable articles. When ‘the going gets tough’ is it just a matter of ‘the tough get going’ or as my 83 year old mother would say, ‘buck your ideas up, my girl’? Stress is a serious (and insidious) condition which can lead to life threatening diseases. The Ruby Connection is a blog, and I am asking you to share what works best for you, particularly when most of what you already know about on how to handle stress flies out of the window.
I suggest keeping your tips short so they can be easily referred to quickly.
- Don’t give undue focus on the negatives in your life. If you have a great job and supportive friends, but your relationship has failed, 1 + 1 does not equal zero!
- Keep a ‘grateful’ notebook and jot down simple pleasures and kindnesses you receive every day but generally take for granted. If you haven’t the time, at least think of them.
- Try and convert a negative situation or person into a positive lesson. Perhaps these situations or people have come into our lives to make us a better person.
- Sometimes it is impossible (and not good) to hold it in all the time, so when you are having a wobble, put the oven timer or your stop watch on for 10 minutes and have a self-indulgent blubber. When it rings, take several deep breaths and move on.