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Knowing when to say “no”.
21 February 2017
Tell me if this sounds like you…
Are you always trying to be nice to others at the expense of yourself and your goals or dreams? Your time is already limited and you are spending more and more on other people’s priorities and less and less on your own? Is seem that you are working harder and faster and yet, you are not able to catch up.
Not knowing when to say “no” creates a dilemma that’s hard to get out of.
Taking the first step
The first step to get out of this vicious cycle is to become clear as to what is important to you, and what is not.
Gaining clarity and figuring out how you wish to spend your time will help you to say “no” with confidence. That way if someone asks for your involvement in a project you can easily decipher if it fits you and you can then say “yes” or “no”.
Communicating when you want to say no
It’s important the when you say “no” you reject the request and not the person, and once you decline, honestly explain why you are unable to assist.
Calmly communicate your needs by using “I’d love to do this, but …”, even when the other person gets pushy and remain polite but resolute.
This gets easier with practice and you might be surprised to see that your courage to say no will gain you a newfound respect for your boundaries.
At times, you might also receive negative reactions, so be prepared, but it might be well worth learning how to say no, when the reward is time for your priorities and more balance in your life.
If you need help to gain clarity so that you can know when to say “yes” and “no”, my free online coaching program provides you with the tools you need to figure out how to fill your days with doing everything you love. To make it easier for you to say yes and no, I help you to create one intent word that will set you in the direction you need to go to achieve your dreams. But, get ready, you will need to practice when to say no and spend some time each week for four weeks building your plan.
I look forward to seeing you there!
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